8 Reasons We Hesitate to Network with Employers
8 reasons why we all hesitate to network with employers
It's totally understandable to feel uneasy about networking and reaching out to employers. Even though these activities are incredibly important for landing a job, a lot of people struggle with them for various reasons. Here are a few of the most common barriers:
Fear of Rejection
- Why it's hard: The idea of reaching out to someone and potentially being ignored or rejected is nerve-wracking. No one likes to feel like they're putting themselves out there only to get a "no" or no response at all. This fear can paralyze people and prevent them from even trying.
- What helps: Reframing rejection as part of the process and not a personal failure. In reality, most professionals experience rejection at some point, and it doesn't mean you're not good enough. You'll likely have to reach out to multiple people before something clicks.
Lack of Confidence
- Why it's hard: Many people feel insecure about their abilities, especially if they're in a job transition or just entering the workforce. They might feel they don't have the "right" skills or experience to reach out to people in a position of authority.
- What helps: Focusing on your strengths, and remembering that networking is a two-way conversation. You're not begging for a job; you're trying to build a connection and learn more about an opportunity. Plus, people like helping others, especially if you approach them with curiosity and respect.
Uncertainty About What to Say
- Why it's hard: The fear of saying the "wrong thing" or not knowing how to initiate a conversation is common. There's a pressure to sound polished or have the perfect elevator pitch.
- What helps: Having a few basic templates or frameworks to fall back on can ease the anxiety. You don't have to come up with a perfect message every time—being genuine and clear about why you're reaching out is often enough. Even something as simple as, "I'd love to learn more about your experience at [Company]. Do you have time for a quick chat?" can go a long way.
Introversion or Social Anxiety
- Why it's hard: Some people are naturally introverted or have social anxiety, which makes networking feel like an overwhelming task. The thought of reaching out to strangers, even online, can feel exhausting or stressful.
- What helps: Starting small can make it more manageable. Try reaching out to people you already have some connection with (like a former colleague or a classmate). Online networking, like sending a LinkedIn message, can also feel less intimidating than face-to-face interactions.
Not Knowing How to Network Effectively
- Why it's hard: Some people don't know where to start or what the best practices are for networking. It can feel like a vague, intimidating process where you're supposed to magically "know" what to do.
- What helps: Learning specific networking strategies, like how to craft a compelling LinkedIn message, how to use networking events effectively, or even how to build relationships over time instead of expecting immediate results. Setting small goals (e.g., reaching out to one new person each week) can make networking feel less overwhelming.
Overwhelmed by the Process
- Why it's hard: Job hunting, in general, is stressful. Adding networking on top of it can make everything feel more like an uphill battle. The idea of reaching out to numerous employers or connections when you're already juggling applications, interviews, and other tasks can feel exhausting.
- What helps: Treating networking as a long-term process and not something you need to do all at once. It's about building relationships over time rather than sending out mass messages to dozens of people at once. Break it into smaller, more manageable steps.
Imposter Syndrome
- Why it's hard: Many people struggle with imposter syndrome—feeling like they don't deserve the job they want or aren't qualified to be in certain circles. This can make it harder to reach out to employers or higher-level professionals.
- What helps: Realizing that most people have felt that way at some point. Reaching out isn't about proving your worth in one conversation; it's about learning, making connections, and showing interest in the field or the company.
Not Seeing the Immediate Value
- Why it's hard: Some people don't see the value in networking or don't understand how it directly impacts their job search. It might feel like a "nice-to-have" activity, rather than a necessity.
- What helps: Understanding that many job opportunities—especially in competitive fields—are never advertised publicly. Networking increases your chances of hearing about these "hidden" opportunities. Additionally, building a strong professional network is valuable for career growth in the long term, not just job hunting.
How to Make It Easier:
- Start with your existing network: Sometimes the easiest way to begin is by reaching out to friends, family, or acquaintances who might know people in the industry you're interested in.
- Focus on learning, not just asking for a job: Rather than immediately asking for a job, ask for advice or insights. People love to share their knowledge, and it takes the pressure off both sides.
- Be authentic: Networking isn't about being slick or over-polished. If you're genuine and curious, people will be more likely to respond positively.
- Set a goal for yourself: Whether it's sending out a certain number of messages a week or attending a networking event, setting a goal can make it feel more structured and less overwhelming.
